These are some of the books by Christian authors that are available for use in self-education about marital abuse – both domestic violence and emotional/mental/verbal abuse.

I have read only a small percentage of this list, therefore I naturally do not endorse every word, but I do believe the authors to be experienced in helping both the abused and the abuser. There is something to be learned from every person with whom we cross paths. Feel free to add more books that you have found in the comment section below.

Mending the Soul: Understanding and Healing Abuse by Steven R.Tracy

The Emotionally Destructive Marriage by Leslie Vernick

Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft (founder of Emerge, the first abuse programme for men)

Emotional Assault: Recognizing and Abusive Partner’s Bag of Tricks by Lisa Kroulik

A Cry For Justice by Anna Wood and Jeff Crippen (pastor for 30 yrs)

Why is He So Mean to Me? by Cindy Burrell

Controlling People: How to Recognize, Understand and Deal with People Who Try to Control You by Patricia Evans

Helping Her Get Free: A Guide by Susan Brewster

The Verbally Abusive Marriage: How to Recognize it and How to Respond by Patricia Evans

It’s My Life Now: Starting Over After an Abusive Relationship or Domestic Violence by Meg Dugan and Roger Hock

Emotional Abuse: the Top 10 Methods of Recognizing and Breaking Free From an Abusive Relationship by Vivian Morgan

Emotional Abuse: Silent Killer by Austin James

7 Reasons Why Women Stay in Abusive Relationships and How to Defeat Each One of Them by John Shore

110 Ways to Spot a Toxic Person by Henriette Christensen

The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life by Robin Stern

Toxic Relationships: Recognize it and Learn How to Fix it or Forget It by Sarah Goldberg

The Verbally Abusive Man: Can He Change? A Woman’s Guide to Deciding Whether to Stay or Go by Patricia Evans

Psychopath-Free: Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships With Narcissists, Sociopaths and Other Toxic People by Peace

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About Joy Harris

Joy studied elementary education before going on to teach at the primary school level as well as homeschooling for twenty-six years. Joy has touched the lives of thousands through her ministry in state Religious Education, Sunday Schools, and Holiday Bible Clubs as well as through her speaking at various seminars and retreats. Joy is also a gifted musician and has collaborated on multiple recording projects as well as maintaining a private teaching studio for over thirty years. Joy is retired and lives in Cairns, Australia. Joy has seven children, twenty-one grandchildren, and two great-grandchildren. You can contact Joy at

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