• That C-word. No one expects it. No one welcomes it. It’s just a small lump in the middle of my back. Not even sure it’s worth mentioning to my doctor.  Sure… we’ll watch it and see if it grows or becomes irregular in shape. It’ll be fine. It wasn’t fine. […]

  • How would you label the expression on the face of that Ugandan boy? When my granddaughter started up her new bubble-making machine, the fifty or so noisy Sunday School children stopped suddenly with their mouths open. They’d never seen bubbles and were afraid of them! After being shown that they […]

  • “Why does she stay? It doesn’t make sense!” An abusive husband with a Bible-believing wife has an advantage—a secret weapon. The Bible, used in a twisted way, enables him to habitually control his wife and children and get that to which he feels entitled. There are a variety of verses […]

  • With society’s current focus on the Duggars, maybe it’d be a good idea to look into general principles of how to help the victims of sexual abuse. What does a victim deal with? The abuse paradigm is a unique issue in which we need to educate ourselves. “She feels more […]

  • “Silence in the face of evil is itself evil. God will not hold us guiltless. Not to speak is to speak. Not to act is to act.” – Deitrich Bonhoeffer   She comes to her pastor trembling, testing his reaction to her tip-of-the-iceberg disclosure of the cruelty that persists behind […]

  • These are some of the books by Christian authors that are available for use in self-education about marital abuse – both domestic violence and emotional/mental/verbal abuse. I have read only a small percentage of this list, therefore I naturally do not endorse every word, but I do believe the authors […]

  • It is natural for pastors and counsellors unfamiliar with the true nature of spouse abuse to assume that because a couple is married, meeting with them together makes sense. But the National Domestic Violence Hotline states that …in order for couples counselling to be successful, both partners must be willing […]

  • After an abuse victim has separated from her husband due to repetitive and serious sin, she will be faced with deciding what her response will be when he approaches her about getting back together. Whether he comes with charm, tears, or threats, it is crucial for her to first have […]

  • “A truly repentant person does not negotiate the consequences of his actions.”1 Scene: an abused wife has followed Biblical principles and the couple is now separated. One day, her unrepentant husband shows up at the door with her favourite flowers. He says he’s had time to think about their relationship. […]

  • What should a wife do when her husband has a pattern of abusing her emotionally and verbally (but not physically)? Defining emotional abuse Abuse is not the occasional burst of anger, selfishness, or criticism. Genuine abuse equals the Biblical term “oppression.” Abuse is a pattern of toxic behaviour (see chart) […]