When you’ve been hurt: Making the difficult choices

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It might be as simple as an insulting comment or as complex as childhood sexual abuse, but whatever we're dealing with, one thing is clear: We all get hurt at times. Sometimes we can overlook and move on. The damage is minimal. But when the hurt is too deep for that, it's easy for the wound to become infected. In fact, it's almost guaranteed. We come to hate the person who hurt us, we look

Should I pursue prosecution of crimes against me?

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So you are the victim of a crime. It may be publicly known or it may be unknown to most. It may be recent or it may be the silent horror of a broken childhood. The perpetrator may be someone you know well or someone you never met before the crime took place. The crime may have been theft, physical abuse, sexual in nature, or any number of other issues. And now you're facing the

Can I take a Christian to court?

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Living in a broken world is messy. It would be nice if everyone saw eye-to-eye and problems were easily resolved. Unfortunately, this is rarely the case. Even believers sometimes find themselves in bitter disputes with other believers. This raises the question: Is it ok to take another believer to court? A common answer to this question is a straightforward—and sometimes emphatic—no. The Apostle Paul addressed the question directly in 1 Corinthians 6:1-8. 1 Corinthians 6 1When

16 reasons crime should not be handled in-house

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Ministry means working with people. And people are sinners. So those who are ministering to others will at times find themselves knee deep in messy situations. Unfortunately, these situations often involve criminal behaviour which has never been reported to the civil authorities. Probably the most common instances are child abuse (physical, emotional, sexual, or neglect) and domestic/family violence. EDIT: Based on some of the comments, I wanted to add a quick clarification here. I am

His weakest moment

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It's a funny thing about life. It's easy to judge someone... until you know them. We were living in close quarters and he really got under my skin. He wasn't likeable like the others were. He didn't go with the flow. He wasn't fun to be around. He had issues. And he annoyed me. It was easy to judge him. Then I sat next to him as he poured out his story of brokenness and

Descending to the dungeon

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The great English Baptist, Charles Spurgeon, loved to allude to his second favourite book in his writing and preaching. One such allusion is found in Spurgeon's statement below: There are dungeons underneath the Castle of Despair as dreary as the abodes of the lost, and some of us have been in them. Some of you know these dungeons well. The darkened corridors and stone cold floors are easily recognised. Within these dungeons, you move with

When you’re the broken arm in the body of Christ

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Teaching, cleaning, painting, singing... life is busy in the body of Christ. But what about when it isn't? What about when you can't teach and you can't clean? You're too weary to paint and you're too empty to sing? I think we generally find it easy enough to minister in the body. We are part of the family and we expect to do our part. It's easy enough being the biceps of the body, but