For the whole month of November, missionaries Jeremy and Liz Pinero and I took my 4 little “grand-angels” and lived up in the mountains of Big Bay in Vanuatu doing all the . . . well . . . jungle-stuff – like washing our clothes in the river, crouching over […]
Coming: Series 2 – Why the Abused Stay; Series 3 – Why Abusers Abuse; Series 4 – Helping the Abused We all occasionally lose our tempers, but within a short time we realize the damage we’ve done and broken-heartedly ask for forgiveness and a restored relationship. Marital abuse is in […]
Learning of the existence of this well-known pattern of behaviour is often a shock down to the very core of the abused’s soul. When that passes, a wave of immeasurable relief sweeps over this wife feeling uniquely alone, isolated and trapped. It is the confirmation of her sanity after all. […]
Like the tiny destructive termite in “No One Knew” (post 1 of 6 in this Series 1 of 4 “How to Spot an Abuser”), a marriage can be destroyed by “a thousand little razor-cuts of perpetual contempt, put-downs, sarcasm, lies, rudeness, rages, insults and silent treatments, even though a physical […]
So far, we’ve covered physical violence and the cycle of abuse, plus emotional/mental abuse. Another method an abuser uses to get and maintain control of his wife is … Financial Abuse He may make her account for every dollar she spends, limit her access to money, and keep her in […]
This is the last post in Series 1 – How to Spot An Abuser. COMING: Series 2 – Why the Abused Stay Series 3 – Why Abusers Abuse Series 4 – Help For the Abused In the last 5 posts, we have covered physical and verbal abuse patterns, but […]